When using the collaborative law method in a divorce, you do not have to rely on the court; instead, a settlement is reached after a lot of discussion and negotiation. When you use the collaborative law method, you and your spouse each hire your own lawyer, but you also involve third-party financial and/or mental health professionals, such as a financial advisor, certified public accountant (CPA) and therapist. These professionals are supposed to advise you on the most logical agreements, in order to reach some form of resolution.
The collaborative law method is a lengthy process. You have to be willing to commit yourself for the next three to six months and there is no guarantee that after this grueling process that you will have reached an amicable agreement.
Be advised: If you cannot reach a settlement using this method, you actually have to fire your current lawyer and find a new one.