When will my divorce be over?

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Start by learning about the available divorce options to understand which makes the most sense for your specific situation. We provide representation for ALL types of divorces including uncontested divorce, mediated divorce, collaborative divorce, litigated divorce, and limited scope representation.

When spouses are in general agreement about getting a divorce and dividing up assets and debts they may be able to have an uncontested divorce.

Litigation is when your attorney files a petition for divorce and takes it through procedural steps for litigation which may include hearings and possibly a trial.

In a mediated divorce, one attorney handles the case and acts as a neutral third party in which they provide no legal advice but help both spouses work toward resolution.

Collaborative divorce is a specialized divorce process that is controlled by the parties and their attorneys with an upfront agreement to avoid litigation.

Then there’s the court system itself and how quickly or slowly they process paperwork and provide court dates for any hearings you might need.

As far as your real divorce, the reason I have to give you the same answer, that “it depends” is that I honestly don’t know you well enough to answer that question. You see, the answer to how long it takes for your real divorce to be over needs to come from you because the reality is that the real divorce will be over when you decide and accept that it’s over.

The real divorce is over when you can let go of the pain, anger, hurt, blame and guilt that stem from your separation.

The real divorce is over when you no longer give your spouse the power to push your buttons. The real divorce is over when you become comfortable in your own life. The real divorce is over when you realize that you are the architect of your own future and when you choose to focus on that as opposed to focusing on the past or get distracted by the reality that your previous plans have now been interrupted.

The real divorce is over when you can be comfortable with the reality that not everything will happen the way you plan……and instead of that being a cause for anxiety, you can be confident that no matter what circumstances are thrown at you, just like the different circumstances are thrown at everyone else on the planet, you will adjust, and you will be fine.

Please also know that you don’t need to deal with the legal or the real divorce all by yourself. It is too much of a weight to carry alone. Get help from a good lawyer or a good mediator who can help you maneuver the intricacies of the legal system so that portion of your divorce can not only be done as quickly as possible, but so it will be done correctly and it won’t come back and become a problem for you in the future.

And please get help from friends, family members, a good therapist, a good life coach or anyone who can help you through the real divorce and to help you realize that you are not defined by your marriage, your spouse or your past. You are a complete person as an individual. Achieve a quiet state of mind and imagine the life you want for yourself. Then take action, one step at a time, towards that mental image until through a process of trial and error, that image becomes reality.

So, when will your divorce be over? Depending on all of the above, the answer may be:

it will be over very soon
it will be over many months from now
it will be over many years from now
it will never be over.

It’s up to you, and that’s a good thing. The attorneys at The Ashmore Law Firm are here to help you during this difficult time and to help you make the best decisions for your specific situation. Call and speak to one of our attorneys for a confidential and informative analysis of your matter.

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